Sex and to get pregnant

In your desire to have a baby La Botella can be very helpful. But there is more to do than only to drink La Botella - one must also sleep together, have sex, make love, fuck ...

This section is devoted to the topic of LOVE

How do you manage to animate your partner again and feel like having sex? Thus, the "Project fertility" is not "just again the same ritual" devalued, sleeping with each other as a compulsory task of - here useful tips and links.

How to Seduce Your Wife (and Husband)

Seduction is an important part of our sexuality and unfortunately, this often gets abandoned in committed, long-term relationships. And when couples try to turn each other on, they too frequently do so in a formulaic manner rather than using their knowledge of each other to inform their seduction

http://howtospiceupyourmarriage.net/how-to-seduce-your-wife/

10 ways to make doggy style even better

When we asked you to vote for your most-loved sex position, doing it down, dirty and doggy crept into pole position. Here, we share the 10 best ways to get even more out of doing it like they do on the Discovery Channel...
http://www.cosmopolitan.co.uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1492/sex-tips-better-doggy-style/

The 10 Biggest Misconceptions About Anal Sex

The myth: It will hurt.

The truth: Anal sex doesn't have to hurt. It's often just done incorrectly. Many women find it incredibly pleasurable, and some even report having orgasms with them. If you and your partner start slow, work your way into insertion with smaller implements like fingers and sex toys and use plenty of lube, pain will be the last thing on your mind.

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a17749/anal-sex-misconceptions/

The Easiest Way to Have an Orgasm

What if we told you there was a secret ingredient that could up your odds of having an orgasm? Get excited, because there actually is. Nearly 50 percent of men and women who have used lube say that it makes it easier to have an orgasm, according to a new study from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion released by Trojan Lubricants.

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/female-orgasm

5 Ways To Heat Up Your Sex Life

Research has pinpointed the true sources of sexual pleasure for women. Let the findings reignite your sex life...if you dare.

In long-term relationships, women tend to be tougher to turn on than men, at least in terms of what the sexperts call "spontaneous sexual desire." That's the powerful impulse that drives men to come on to their wives regardless of the situation. Many long-married women don't get lusty on the spur of the moment, according to Wise. They need a subtle matrix of mental and physical cues to really get in the mood.

http://www.prevention.com/sex/sex-relationships/5-science-backed-tips-better-sex

7 Foreplay Tips That'll Make Your Man Go Wild

Who says foreplay is boring? These 7 tips are sure to change your mind and produce some amazing sex.

I often get questions about whether or not guys enjoy foreplay. The truth is this: they really enjoy it! If you do foreplay right, then you are both going to enjoy love making a whole lot more. These seven foreplay tips from the Bad Girl's Bible will show you exactly what to do to make foreplay enjoyable for both of you:

1. How you look. Remember, guys are visual by nature. They get turned on by what they see. So, taking care of how you look is a high priority if you want to turn your man on and arouse him. Think of this as a 'pre' foreplay tip to use before you even begin touching him. If you are both going to a party together, dressing up in something sexy and hot is going to start turning your man on hours before you start getting physically intimate. This is great for building sexual tension with him.

2. Talk dirty. Talking dirty is another one of my 'pre' foreplay tips to use on your man throughout the day, before you are both alone together, as well as during foreplay itself. This is to build the sexual tension and have your man salivating for you. Many people believe that talking dirty involves you using various expletives and bad language on your partner. They believe that the crazier they sound, the better. This, thankfully, isn't true. It's much easier than that!
You just need to tell him what you enjoy, why he turns you on and what you want to do to him. As well as this, it's always a good idea to throw in some vague statements to keep him guessing and thinking about you. This site has some great examples to use on your man, both during foreplay and when making love.

3. Learn how to be a good kisser. Too many people think that kissing is a boring foreplay technique. It's not boring at all. And if you do it with passion and intensity like I teach on my site, then it can be incredibly hot! The key is taking the initiative. In other words, you need to kiss your man first before he gets a chance to kiss you.
One thing you can do to make this foreplay tip hotter is by getting a little more aggressive:

• Try squeezing one of his lips between your lips.
• Gently bite one of his lips between your teeth (Remember: be gentle!)
• Use your hand to move his head to one side or the other so that you can change where you kiss him.
• Switch from kissing him on the lips to sucking his ear lobe to kissing him on the neck.
• Don't forget to kiss the rest of his body!

4. Learn how to use your hands. While kissing your man, you can incorporate another foreplay tip, which is touching and massaging your man with your hands. Rather than give you a whole course on how to do it like on my site, here are the main things to keep in mind when touching him. Use these tips:

• Alternate how passionately you touch him. At first touch him and caress him very softly, then later grab him and hold him tight. You may even want to try using your nails sometimes!
• Try dragging your finger tips over his arm as lightly as possible. It tickles, but feels incredible.
• Your man's inner thighs, cheeks, ears, neck and the back of his head are most sensitive...speaking of which.

5. Massage his scalp. Massaging your man's scalp is one of those forgotten foreplay tips that feels wonderful for your man (and when your man does it to you, too!). You can do it while you are just sitting down beside each other, when you are lying in bed, when you are kissing each other or even while making love, too. But don't just scrape his head with your nails! To massage his scalp, start from the bottom near the back of his neck or just above his ear.
Keeping your hand loose, start to slowly push your fingers through his hair up towards the top of his head. When you reach the top of his head, curl your fingers slightly and gently bring them down in the opposite direction, lightly scratching his head.

7. Give him even more wonderful pleasure. If you really want to learn how to give your man incredible oral sex then you may be interested in the techniques from this powerful tutorial video.

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sean-jameson/foreplay-tips

Everything You Want to Know About Male and Female Erogenous Zones

While certain bits of anatomy (ahem, genitalia) are well-known as sites of sexual pleasure, getting turned on doesn’t have to be limited to below the belt. Other areas of the human body have a high concentration of nerve endings, so they’re particularly sensitive to touch, pressure, or vibration . These so-called “erogenous zones” can contribute to sexual arousal—think of them as the road map to a happy ending. 

According to Monica Geller of Friends, there are seven erogenous zones on a woman’s body, but the exact list (for any gender) remains up to speculation. Still, while everyone is a little different when it comes to getting turned on, people generally agree about which erogenous zones are most pleasurable .

The human body’s erogenous zones might seem like a topic worthy of a Cosmo article, but this information matters for several reasons. Knowing these “hot spots” is a plus for both your partner and yourself—who would say no to a boost in sexual satisfaction?

Identifying different erogenous zones also may improve sexual health; some research suggests that stimulating different spots may produce different reactions in the body. For example, touching the vagina appears to set off the release of the feel-good hormone prolactin, while the cervix may be involved in controlling muscle tension during sex . Understanding erogenous zones is also important to make sure that people undergoing gender reassignment surgery or breast augmentation don’t lose significant sexual function .

All this being said, more research is needed to determine the precise effects of stimulating different areas of the body. In the meantime, might we suggest a little personal experimentation? Get started with the guide below.

The Erogenous Zones on the Female Body

While certain bits of anatomy (ahem, genitalia) are well-known as sites of sexual pleasure, getting turned on doesn’t have to be limited to below the belt. Other areas of the human body have a high concentration of nerve endings, so they’re particularly sensitive to touch, pressure, or vibration . These so-called “erogenous zones” can contribute to sexual arousal—think of them as the road map to a happy ending.  

According to Monica Geller of Friends, there are seven erogenous zones on a woman’s body, but the exact list (for any gender) remains up to speculation. Still, while everyone is a little different when it comes to getting turned on, people generally agree about which erogenous zones are most pleasurable .
The human body’s erogenous zones might seem like a topic worthy of a Cosmo article, but this information matters for several reasons. Knowing these “hot spots” is a plus for both your partner and yourself—who would say no to a boost in sexual satisfaction? Identifying different erogenous zones also may improve sexual health; some research suggests that stimulating different spots may produce different reactions in the body. For example, touching the vagina appears to set off the release of the feel-good hormone prolactin, while the cervix may be involved in controlling muscle tension during sex . Understanding erogenous zones is also important to make sure that people undergoing gender reassignment surgery or breast augmentation don’t lose significant sexual function .
All this being said, more research is needed to determine the precise effects of stimulating different areas of the body. In the meantime, might we suggest a little personal experimentation? Get started with the guide below.

The Erogenous Zones on the Female Body

1. Clitoris
A runaway winner for the title of “Body Part Contributing Most to Sexual Arousal” , the clitoris is extremely sensitive (Hello, nerve endings!) . Research shows that stimulating the clitoris is the fastest and easiest way for many women to orgasm . For the most part, pressure and vibration are the way to go; research suggests light touching doesn’t always have the same effect .

2. Vagina
Heard of the famous mecca of sexual pleasure that is the female “G-spot”? Yeah, researchers are pretty sure that doesn’t actually exist . The interior of the vagina, however, does contain nerve endings, and women report that deep stimulation leads to more intense orgasms. The outer edge of the vagina, on the other hand, tends to respond to light touch .

3. Cervix
The cervix, located at the lower end of the uterus, has its own feel-good nerve pathways. In fact, some research suggests that the vagina, clitoris, and cervix all respond separately and distinctly to sexual stimuli . Nerves in the cervix respond most to pressure stimulation, but light touch has been shown to elicit a response as well .
4. Mouth and Lips
A recent survey found kissing to be more important in relationship-building than in sexual arousal . But another study suggests that many women rank the lips and mouth highly as erogenous areas . Who says it can’t be both?

5. Neck
According to a large international survey of women, both the nape and back of the neck are among the top 10 erogenous zones . One study found that the neck is very sensitive to light touch, especially (oddly enough) among people with low body fat . Another study found that women with spinal cord injury can get pretty turned on by neck stimulation alone .

6. Breasts and Nipples
While both men and women may like to look at breasts (for evolutionary purposes, apparently), they’re not just for show—they play a role in sexual arousal as well. Turns out nipple stimulation sets fireworks off in the same region of the brain that processes sensations from the clitoris and vagina . Just as with the clitoris, pressure and vibration are generally the way to go .

7. Ears
Ears are super sensitive to touch, probably due to a large number of nerve endings. Although there’s no science yet to say why ears are erogenous, it seems to be a fairly common consensus that they are.

The Erogenous Zones on the Male Body

1. Penis
While this one’s pretty obvious, it’s worth noting that both survey and lab-based scientific experiments demonstrate that penile stimulation significantly contributes to sexual satisfaction . And while this can be a sensitive subject, circumcision doesn’t appear to decrease sensation or sexual satisfaction .

2. Mouth and Lips
Highly sensitive, male lips respond to light touch, temperature, or pressure. Kissing also triggers a release of hormones involved in intimacy—especially oxytocin, the so-called “love hormone.” Pucker up!

3. Scrotum
Ranked No. 3 (behind penis and lips) in ability to produce sexual arousal, the scrotum is one of men’s most notable erogenous zones . Lots of nerves mean that this area is super-sensitive to touch. However there’s no research to back up what sort of touch works best, so you might have to resort to a slightly-less-than-scientific source instead!

4. Neck
While touching the neck doesn’t appear to be quite as much of a turn-on for men as for women, it’s still ranked pretty highly on the erogenous zones list . The neck has great sensitivity to low-frequency vibration, making it a prime spot for light erotic touch .

5. Nipples
As with women, men rank nipples as a definite hot spot .  While male nipples don’t appear to serve any real purpose (they’re basically by-products of evolution), that doesn’t mean they’re totally useless—they still have plenty of nerve endings!

6. Perineum
The perineum (the area between the anus and scrotum) is hooked up to perineal nerves, which help convey sensations of sexual pleasure from the genitals to the brain. In other words, if you're not familiar with this area, it might be worth your time to get acquainted.

7. Ears
Highly sensitive to touch because of a high number of sensory receptors on the skin, the ears are ranked just behind the scrotum for body parts that help men orgasm when touched or otherwise stimulated .

The Takeaway

While sexual arousal seems like a highly individual sort of thing, people generally tend to agree on which spots get their motors running. These so-called “erogenous zones” are linked to feelings of sexual arousal—stimulating these spots can ramp up feelings of sexual pleasure and make sex more satisfying. The list above describes some of the most common zones, but it is by no means exhaustive. The best way to find out what you and your partner like? Communicate, experiment, communicate some more, and repeat.
http://greatist.com/play/guide-to-male-female-erogeneous-zones

The Best Sex Toys for Couples

New couples' vibrators are getting good buzz. Who says three's a crowd? Here's how to use sex toys together

Toy with Him

If you spend time with your battery-operated-boyfriend only when your real guy isn't around, you're both missing out: Forty-one percent of women and men have used a vibrator during foreplay, according to researchers from Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion, and up to 37 percent of women and men have used one during intercourse.

Not only do women who use toys report a host of pleasure perks, but guys say vibes increase sexual desire, erectile and orgasmic function, and intercourse satisfaction, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., lead author of the surveys and WH sexuality advisor.

So it should come as no surprise that his-and-her vibrators are the hottest trend in sexy accessories. Ready to get into a good rhythm? These four new options are fun to enjoy solo but were created specifically to be shared with him. Take a peek at our recommendations and then read these six tips for using vibrators (plus how to convince your man to get on board with tech in the bedroom)!

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/best-couples-sex-toys

How To Make A Woman Scream In Bed

If you want to really take a woman to the next level of sexual pleasure, have the courage to be vulnerable and authentic with your passion.
If you follow these simple steps, it should not take long before your previously shy woman is screaming her head off, waking up the neighbors, and begging you for more

Let me give you a warning in advance about the material in this article: I am NOT responsible if your neighbors complain about the noise.

Most men love it when the woman they are with shows a lot of– let’s call it “vocal enthusiasm” in the bedroom. Often you’ll hear guys complaining about some woman they are dating that just lays there like she’s bored…

Let me let you in on a secret: Whenever I hear a guy say something like that, I can’t help but wonder–

Maybe that’s because she WAS bored?

With sexual trust a woman is most likely to scream in bed.

As men, we really, really like it when a woman totally loses control of herself from coming so hard, and she just screams her head off.

So logically, unless she’s faking it, that means that YOU’VE got to be good in bed first.

Now, if you are fairly experienced in the bedroom, you might be saying to yourself right now, “wait a minute, Alex, some girls are just shy– they don’t make a lot of noise no matter how hard they come.”

Yeah, I know the type– the girls that just breath harder and faster when they have an orgasm, but, for one reason or another, they don’t “let it out” and get their scream on.

Well, I make them scream– And you can too.

Here’s an important thing to understand, when a woman is not screaming, she is holding herself back.

And even though she may think she’s really getting off and that she doesn’t need to make noise to prove it… the truth is, because she is holding herself back, she is probably NOT experiencing orgasms that are anywhere near as powerful as she is capable of.

In fact, I’ve talked with women who THOUGHT that they were having orgasms, but really, they were just feeling a lot of sexual excitement, which felt really good, and so they figured, hmm… that must be what orgasms feel like.

It didn’t occur to them that maybe there was something else, something bigger, that they were not experiencing, until someone actually brought them over the edge and they realized, “Oh my God, so THAT’S what an orgasm feels like!”

And you might be interested to know that sometimes the very thing that got them over the edge and had them experience their first real orgasm was the act of screaming itself.

Let that one sink in for a moment.

It wasn’t the screaming that was DIRECTLY doing it. It was the act of letting themselves go enough… it was allowing themselves to relax and just let it out… it was the release of their
inhibitions to make noise…

And that simultaneously released their inhibitions to fully experience an orgasm unlike anything they had experienced before.

Having a screaming orgasm can be a self-perpetuating cycle for a woman. It’s a feedback loop.

Allowing themselves to make noise makes them come harder, sometimes even MUCH harder, which makes them scream more, which makes them come harder…

You get the idea.

Unfortunately, you can’t get this great result by just saying to a girl, “okay, I’d like you to scream now while we are having sex.”

In order to get her to let go– I mean REALLY let go and be completely un-selfconscious about it — you are going to have to get her comfortable enough to surrender over her body… to YOU.

And it is why sex is (or can be when it’s truly amazing) so incredibly intimate for women.

Most women can’t give this level of orgasmic experience to themselves. They can only achieve these heights with an expert lover– somebody who they can surrender control to.

Why?

Have you ever done something with a buddy that you would have been afraid to do alone?

Maybe you did something that you knew was dangerous– and if you were on your own, you wouldn’t have had the guts to go… (and if he was on his own, he wouldn’t have had the guts either)– but together, even though it was still every bit as dangerous, you had the confidence to do it because you knew your pal had your back.

It’s not a perfect example, but maybe it helps you understand why “Sexual Trust” is so important for a woman:

She can’t go to this place that “feels” dangerous to her all by herself. She needs you to take her by the hand and guide her.

This is probably the most important thing you’ll ever read about making love. And it may sound a bit vague or confusing when you first encounter the idea. But this bit of sexual mastery just happens to be more “art” than “science”.

If learning how to create Sexual Trust is a sticking point for you, the best way I know to truly “get it” is to go through the process of my Sexual Mastery Program so that you can listen to it explained out it in stages.

Sexual Trust, obviously, is the master key to the process, but let’s look at some super easy ways to make a woman more comfortable to get her scream on with you.

Start with MUSIC. It’s a simple tip, but a good one.

Playing music serves two very important roles in this situation–

The first is that if you play it reasonably loud, it gives her some “cover” for the noise that she is making. It’s a harder surrender to make noise in a silent room than a loud one. It lets her experiment with making more noise without the neighbors noticing.

The second reason is that music affects our emotions– and it especially affects women’s emotions. And it is through her emotions that she will eventually reach the point of trust and intimacy to release herself.

What music should you play?

This is important: Play the music that SHE wants to hear. What YOU think it sexy music is all well and good, but right now we are working on HER feelings, and the music that makes her feel a sense of sexual abandonment might really surprise you.

If she’s already doing some heavy breathing and making small noises, the next thing to do is… Give her something to say.

Try this: Tell her to say your name.

This isn’t for everyone and it’s not a 100% thing, but it can work very well, and be a nice connector at the same time.

The idea is to make her engage her vocal cords when she is at the height of her excitement or when she is actually having an orgasm.

Tell her to say your name, out loud, as she is coming, and she might very well involuntarily
SCREAM your name.

Part of the “secret sauce” here is that you are telling her what to do. You can do this sweetly, dominantly, teasingly… as long as it is firm and not tentative on your part. This allows her to feel a surrender of control as she is approaching orgasm.

Now there is another psychological/emotional reason for having her say your name, rather than shouting out, say, “Hallelujah!”

It is an intimacy builder. It is a nice, bonding thing for her to associate you and the sound of your name coming out of her own mouth, to her most profound pleasure.

So putting your name into her thoughts is nice. But in the end, if that’s weird for her, “YES!” or “MORE!” or “HARDER!” will do.

Okay, now we are going to move into some slightly more advanced territory.

One of the most powerful ways to get her to release her inner banshee is to completely eliminate any hint of your own sexual shyness or shame.

Look, it’s not your fault, and nobody is completely free of any insecurities, so this can be more difficult than it sounds.

Women have very strong intuition, and they sense when we are uncomfortable.

However, if you want her to be completely uninhibited in bed, it is asking an awful lot if you are coming to bed with a bunch of your own insecurities.

Anything you do that tips her off to the fact that you are not feeling 100% comfortable and in control of the situation is going to work against you.

What kinds of things will tip her off?

Nervous laughter, any kind of defensive or angry remarks towards her if anything goes differently than you expected, and any feelings of frustration are just a few…

But the bigger ones are any time you try to do something to make yourself look “cool” or create an effect. Anything that feels “fake” to her, or like you are “trying” for a reaction.

The most secure and powerful thing you can do in the bedroom is to be authentic.

And the other big one is to express passion yourself.

Very few men have the confidence it takes to show their true passion and really lose themselves
in the act of making love. Those that do win instant trust and passion in return.

You can fake it and get some results, but in the end, authenticity is king.

When she sees that you are coming to her with your guard down and all of your filters turned off,
her body will respond to you in ways that you can’t imagine.

If you want to really take a woman to the next level of sexual pleasure, have the courage to be vulnerable and authentic with your passion.

If you follow these simple steps, it should not take long before your previously shy woman is screaming her head off, waking up the neighbors, and begging you for more.

Quick warning– some women like to scream “please stop,” or “No, no, I can’t take any more,” and stuff of that nature.

This can actually work better than yelling out your name for many women, because, powerfully, it allows her to surrender permission to you…

BUT there’s a huge downside if you live in an apartment as it can easily result in overly concerned neighbors calling the police.

Trust me, this is bad. And you have been warned.

AND… If she really wants/needs to play in that space of screaming, “no!” then you will want to
make SURE that you have “safe word” that means “no for real”… and, of course, you need to be certain that she is 100% consensual in the entire process.

As I mentioned, getting a woman to open to the idea of making noise is a pretty good tip for giving a woman who has never experienced an orgasm, her very first one.

And that alone can be a beautifully bonding experience that leads to even deeper Sexual Trust, and even more powerful sexual adventures together.

http://www.eligiblemagazine.com/2014/02/25/make-woman-scream-bed/

30 Sex Fantasies To Turn Into Reality

Because it never hurts to get a little creative

Whether you've been together for two years or 16, you know how important passion is in your relationship. But did you know how key fantasies are in having a happy relationship? Being able to communicate your desires to your partner, keep things new, and add imagination to sex will do wonders for you—both in the bedroom and outside of it.  

About 95 percent of people report that they have sexual fantasies. According to a study conducted at the University of Granada, women have pleasant romantic fantasies more frequently than men—a few times a month. Men, however, fantasize more frequently about sexcapades involving being promiscuous, being a swinger, and participating in an orgy.

But don't let these preferences hold you back. There are tons of fantasies to try with your significant other. Shares your desires, experiment, and discover what works best for you both as a couple. You may surprise yourself—and get closer to your partner in the process.

1. Boss and Employee Fantasy
Fifty-six percent of women and 61 percent of men have sexual fantasies about getting it on with co-workers in their office. So why not dress up in your work attire, get behind the desk, and re-create the hot new hookup scenario that's been on your mind? The allure of having sex with a coworker, especially your boss, has to do with gaining power. And that’s hot.

2. Dominate
Power is a rush, there's no doubt about it. Many women dream about having a man obey their every wish, so why not unleash your inner dominatrix and try it out in the bedroom? You can do this by simply calling all the shots or by experimenting with whips, handcuffs, etc. Either way, you'll be in total control, and he'll be completely devoted. Win, win.

3. Have Sex Outside 
Want the thrill of getting it on outside the bedroom without the risk of getting caught? Embrace the elements, and try doing it in a secluded area outside at night. The grass, the sand, the pool—the great outdoors is your sex playground.

4. Be an Exhibitionist 
In his study of sexual fantasy, Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head?, Brett Kahr found 19 percent of people fantasize about being watched during sex—and another 5 percent fantasize about taking their clothes off in public. In for the risk? Put on a show. Get it on near the windows in your home or hotel room.

5. Be Voyeuristic
Does watching the show from the sidelines turn you on? Whether you're spying on the neighbors or the couple getting it on at the beach, this fantasy is a common one. One easy way to make it happen? Go to a nude beach or a sex show with your partner.

6. Watch Each Other Masturbate
Put a twist on your voyeuristic fantasy by watching your partner masturbate—or letting them watch you. It will help them better understand what you desire, and of course, it's an instant turn on. 

7. The Stranger Fantasy
Sharing a fantasy for the very first time? Here's an easy one both men and women enjoy. There's something sexy and mysterious about anonymity. In fact, the LELO Global Sex Survey discovered that having sex with a stranger is on the rise this year. An easy way to get in on the trend: Turn yourselves into strangers. No matter how long you've known your partner, pretend you don't know him at all. Choose different clothes, new hairstyles, different personalities, different names. Start by meeting at a bar, then take your new friend home—and stay in character the entire time.

8. Make A Sex Video
While men may be more visual, women are interested in porn, too. A Stanford University study found that women reach their peak arousal after just two minutes into an erotic flick. According to Men's Health, it's not just celebrities who want to make sex tapes—40 percent of women want to make a homemade flick with their partners. In 2012, 28 percent of women made a sex video with their guy, and in 2014, that number is expected to climb to 52 percent. So get on it while it's hot. After you watch it, though, make sure to hide it safely or quickly delete it.

9. Threesome Fantasy
Want to get it on with your partner and another man or woman? Threesomes are a popular fantasy—and they're trendier than ever. The LELO study revealed that this year, 20 percent of women have had a threesome. They say they love the rush and added stimuli.

10. Have Sex In Public
According to Men's Health, 64 percent of women want to step outside the bedroom and get frisky in public. It makes sense: The rush, risk of getting caught—it all adds to your experience. Talk about where you both feel comfortable doing the deed, whether it's an elevator, a bathroom, or your backyard.

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/sex-fantasies

Sexual Fantasies for Men

Men fantasize about sex. A lot. But what are the sexual fantasies for men that make them go tight in their pants and weak in their knees? The Super Fella explains.

Men and sexual fantasies are like fish and water. If you really want to know what makes a man tick in his pants, you need to understand his fantasies.
A man’s big black book of sexual fantasies keeps getting bigger, and his fantasies keep piling up all the time.
You may have your own fantasy too, a new one that you created just this morning.
Oh, you don’t fantasize? Right, and I’m the King of Timbuktu!

Sexual fantasies and men
All of us fantasize. Even those dorky people who don’t seem to care about anything but their own zit and the mop of hair on their head.
If men and women don’t fantasize, porn wouldn’t be a multi-billion dollar industry and Mills and Boon wouldn’t be such a best seller, would it?
So now that we’re all too familiar with the fact that men and women fantasize and accept that all of us do, let’s get straight to the well kept secrets of your partner’s mind and their sexual fantasies. And of course, knowing this is going to make sex oh-so-much fun!

A man’s black book of sexual fantasies
Men think a lot about sex, and fantasize to no end. All the way from rescuing nude damsels in distress from the evil warlord who dies with one stroke of the sword to being washed ashore on a faraway island inhibited by only women with no clothes but oyster shells, the see through ones, of course. But one man’s fantasy aside, take a peek into what all men like in bed, and their all biggest sexual fantasies.

#1 Threesomes!
Right there, spot on at the top, baby! A man loves to have a sexual threesome. And coming to think of it, I don’t know if there’s one man alive who doesn’t want to have a threesome.
I’m sure even Adam was frustrated with the Big Guy because Eve wasn’t enough for him. Some men say they want to have sex with two women because they want to brag about it, but I don’t think that’s the truth. If it’s just a case of bragging, then they wouldn’t really want to fantasize about the sex. They would rather fantasize about the bragging part.
Men think a woman’s body is the best looking thing they’ve ever seen (don’t women say the same thing?), so seeing two girls all over each other in such close proximity is just way too haute, in a completely delightful sexual way! This is one thing all men like in bed, no exceptions!

#2 Prostitution
I don’t know too many men who have the coin purses to drive down a dark alley and pick a girl up. And even the ones who do want to do that are quite afraid, what with all the sexual diseases scare going on around us!
I know, I know, women think their man’s sexual fantasy of banging a hooker is disgusting, but come on, this is a man thing, and so women have just got to accept it.
Men run behind women almost all the time they’re awake, so when they are able to get laid a few minutes into the talk, sometimes even less, it’s thrilling. The man is officially the cheap man’s James Bond once he hooks a hooker. But when he doesn’t have what it takes to pick her up in the first place, he sexually fantasizes about the prostitute scenario. His girlfriend may very well be the prostitute in his fantasy!

#3 Role playing games
Men love role playing. It’s like getting to sleep with different women in different scenarios. If a guy’s girl isn’t too keen on playing a stewardess or an airhostess, all he has to do is imagine a sexual fantasy of role playing. If you’re wondering what men like in bed, bring out your nurse or cheerleader dress and watch the sheets rise in the middle faster than you can say boingg!
But men do like women who want to experiment. And thankfully, women like Christina Aguilera talk about role playing like it’s the best thing any woman can do, which of course, convinces most women to participate in it. Every man loves to role play. The ones who say they don’t, either had their mate dressed up like their perverted physical instructor, or haven’t experienced it yet!

#4 Women who are off-limits
What men like in bed is a woman who is off limits. Men love what they can’t have. But they still try. And that’s why a few women call men ass wipes. I don’t know why, but men find the thought of hooking up with a woman who is off limits extremely attractive and arousing.
In reality, making out with these women may come with its own share of worries, but in their heads, boy, can men spin a tale! This sexual fantasy includes balling their friend’s wife, his girlfriend’s best friend or her flirty sister.

#5 Exotic locations
The lives of many men turn out to be quite boring, as the relationship wears on happily. Most of them stare at the same patch on the wall every single time they have sex with their woman. And for a few more unfortunate souls, there’s even a fixed time frame to have sex. Yikes! So what do men do?
They dream about making love at some other time of the day, in some other part of the house. And if their sexual fantasies are on a high, they drift away to some beach resort, a parking lot, or a club. When it comes to screwing a girl in his sexual fantasies, the world is definitely his oyster. But this is really great for the couple, his libido surges on a high if he’s having sex and thinking about that new spot he dreamt of earlier that day.

http://www.lovepanky.com/sensual-tease/fantasy/sexual-fantasies-for-men

4 Important Rules for White Men Dating Black Women

Author’s Note: Though racial microaggressions are felt by every marginalized group within the dating realm, I am building upon my own personal experiences with heterosexual, cisgender white men to offer suggestions on how to ease racial tensions that may arise in a white man/black woman pairing.

Once, I was at a bar with friends when two white men approached me. One was a guy who was interested in talking to me, and the other was acting as his wingman.

The wingman walked up to me as his friend stood beside him and screamed over the music, “You’re perfect! My friend likes black girls, but he doesn’t like them too dark!”

Against my better judgment, I assumed that the wingman just wasn’t very good at his job and started talking to his friend anyway. We ended up hitting it off, but it wasn’t until our first date that I realized I had underestimated the wingman’s abilities.

The guy did, in fact, have some kind of black girl fetish.

He kept touching my hair without my consent, was legitimately disappointed that I could not twerk, and called me “sassy” whenever I voiced an opinion that was different from his.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t the first or last awkward date I’ve had with a white man.

I wish I could say that I’m surprised and appalled by the ignorance that white men tend to show when they approach me, but I’ve come to expect it. While white men are not the only group to hold racial biases and stereotypes against black women, they tend to be the least informed on the racialized and gendered issues that black women endure.

White men have the privilege of not having to actively think about their intersections of race and gender, which is starkly different from black women’s realities. White men navigate society with relative ease while black women are teetering on the precarious margins of race and gender that they do not have the privilege to ignore.

This is not a game to us, nor is it something we can ignore.

Our race and gender affects the way we carry ourselves, and this uncomfortable mindfulness is something that white men simply cannot relate to. While it may be hard for two people from widely different intersections of race and gender to understand each other, it’s not impossible once the more privileged party (in this case, the white guy) is able to recognize their shortcomings and how the intersections of race and gender affect every aspect of a black woman’s life.

A white man must be willing to work toward a better understanding of how race and gender intersect differently for everyone, and he must also be prepared to speak out against the injustices that their partners will endure.

We’ve recently offered suggestions on how people of color can approach their white partner on the issue of race.And while of course the topic of race should be an ongoing conversation with your significant other, things would go a lot smoother if men — and in this case, white men — were able to identify and prevent racial tension from the very beginning.

To be blunt: White guys, you often approach black women in a harmful way.

Most white men are unaware of the microaggressions towards their black partner that make their chances for a second date slim to none.

Microaggressions are comments or actions that unintentionally alienate or demean a marginalized person or group.

These include, but are not limited to, saying things such as “You’re [insert positive adjective] for a black girl!” or “You’re not like other black people!”

These may seem harmless to some, but they’re actually symptoms of deeper problems rooted in systematic oppressions that black women face daily.

So, in order to avoid some head and heartaches down the road for both parties, I’d like to offer white men some suggestions on how to best approach us.

This won’t apply to every black woman, but it wouldn’t hurt to infuse some intersectional feminism into your game.

Intersectionality would help because it’s an understanding that a person’s experiences are shaped by their gender, race, physical ability, and socioeconomic class, to name a few factors.

In other words, you should be looking at the whole person, and not a one-dimensional archetype of a black woman.

But before you can even get there, you need to do some self-reflection to work out why, exactly, you want to date black women (or a particular black woman). Here are some questions to think about:

·         Do you proclaim to have “Jungle Fever” or “a thing for black women?”

·         Do you believe that black women are, by virtue of their race, exotic and different?

·         Do you think of dating a black woman as a new or exotic experience?

·         Do you have a fascination with how biracial children look? Are you seeking out black women for the sole purpose of having mixed kids?

·         Are you pursuing a black woman as an act of rebellion against your friends and/or family?

·         Do you expect all or most black women to behave the same?

If you answer yes to any of these, then you should take a step back to reevaluate.

These are harmful stereotypes that will not only make your black partner uncomfortable, they will further marginalize them.

You should want to date a person because you like who they are and have compatible views and interests, not because their race is the next thing to do on your bucket list or because you were enthralled by their “exotic ways” (honestly, are you doing an anthropological study on black culture? Don’t treat me like an artifact).

If you answered no to these questions and you think those assumptions on black womanhood are downright absurd (hint: they are), then perhaps you are well on your way to showing a black woman that you want to date a complete person and not a stereotype!

So, as you’re getting to know this woman, be sure to keep the following in mind:

1. Be Open-Minded About Racial and Cultural Differences

Race is going to come up in any interracial coupling, but please do not say “You’re pretty/intelligent/well-spoken/whatever for a black woman!” or “You’re not like other black women!”

That may seem like a compliment, but what we’re actually hearing is “I think all black people are [negative adjective], but you are the exception.”

These are perfect examples of microaggressions.

When you compliment a black woman in this way, you are implying that we are exceptions to the rule — the rule being that that black women are not attractive, intelligent, or posses any other positive attributes.

And when these stereotypes are internalized and then manifested in society, it could have severe consequences.

More often than not we are looked over for jobs, we do not receive adequate education or medical care, and we are imprisoned at much higher rates than our white counterparts all because blackness is rarely associated with positivity.

So in order to combat the harmful stereotypying of our people, try to compliment us without the caveat!

“You’re intelligent.” “You’re hilarious!” Full stop.

 2. Accept Black Women as Individuals

Often, someone from a marginalized group is expected to be the authority on that group’s culture, but that’s an unreasonable expectation.

It’s assumed that that everyone belonging to that group thinks and behaves the same way, but that is never – ever – the case.

When getting to know a black woman, don’t ask them to be the authority on black culture. Don’t ask us “Why do black people like or do _____?” You can’t expect one person to know all things black culture.

Instead, remember that black women, like all people, have varying interests, backgrounds, and obstacles that they face daily.

Try to think of a black woman as an individual, and not as the chosen speaker for a whole diverse group.

 3. Appreciate Black Women’s Sexuality — But Don’t Fetishize Them

Fetishization of black women occurs in many different forms, but the some of the most common include quantifying black women and expecting them to adhere to stereotypes.

Black lovers should not be collected and bragged about like trophies.

This further marginalizes us by making it seem like we are something exotic, elusive, and mysterious.

Don’t expect black women to twerk, to be angry, or to be promiscuous.

Not only will you be sorely disappointed if the black woman you pursue doesn’t have any of these attributes, but you’re also perpetuating harmful stereotypes about black women.

Instead, treat each and every black woman you crush on like an individual.

Like I’ve said, we’re all different.

Individuality and uniqueness is something that isn’t afforded to black women; instead, we’re expected to fit into one suffocating box of limited stereotypes.

But black women are fully fleshed, three dimensional human beings with varying thoughts, abilities, values, and passions. Please treat us as such.

 4. Just Be Yourself

As cliché as this sounds, you don’t have to pretend to be anything other than yourself when approaching a black woman.

Because we’re faced with such hostility and scrutiny in the dating world, black women can be just as nervous about dating outside of their race as you are.

Just like you shouldn’t expect a black woman to behave a certain way, you shouldn’t have to pretend to be something you’re not to impress someone either.

Talk to black women like you would anyone else and get to know them for who they really are.

Appreciate us for our versatility and the little quirks that make each one of us so special. You’ll be pleasantly surprised when you realize that black women are so much more than what they are expected to be.

http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/12/white-men-dating-black-women/

Use your tongue to sizzle up your sex life 

The photograph is only a joke ;-)

Want to add sizzle to your sex life? Use your tongue! This organ of the body has great potential if used correctly. There are places that can stimulate you and arouse your senses to the peak. The tongue can be a great asset in improving your sex life and can heighten your pleasure ten-fold.

Using a tongue is just another great way to have a passionate kiss. It can be used in unexpected areas to bring in more passion between the two. Foreplay is a major factor for great orgasm. If you want to please your man, work your way from below ie, toes to chest. It's the best way to leave him wanting for more even before he knows. Toes are a very sensitive part and shouldn't be avoided. Start with the licking of the toe and then graduate upwards. He will be asking for more that are caused with the help of the tongue.

Man's heart is directly linked to his stomach. All you need to do is work it up the right way. One of the most ignored yet erogenous spot is the naval. This area is highly sensitive. Use your tongue slowly and steady at that area and start licking him on his stomach and naval. And, you see the difference in no time.

The chest is one place where you can experiment. Men are always proud of their chest and making him feel wanted will captivate him. It will make him feel more confident and appreciated. Stimulating his chest with your tongue can create magic inside him.

The neck and ears play a very crucial part. These zones are highly sensitive. Using your tongue in these areas can get it going for you sooner than you think it will.

Just as Osho says, "Be a witness of sex too. Don't be the controller of it. Don't try to forcibly bring it under control, remain a witness of it too. Just as you are a witness of everything else, remain a witness of sex too" It is important to not view it as a bad thing.

A sizzling sex life can be achieved by doing these simple actions. It should be bias free and if your partner likes it, what's the harm?

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Use-your-tongue-to-sizzle-up-your-sex-life/articleshow/10030045.cms

The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

This article is for anyone who was never taught the best way to masturbate. So funnily enough it’s for 99.99% of all guys…

You’ll discover ways to give yourself more intense orgasms than you ever thought possible. And importantly you’ll also find out how masturbation can make you better, or worse, at the real thing.
This is important because many guys end up having problems because of the way they masturbate. But with the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual stamina that will leave women lying exhausted on the bed next to you.
And even if you’re not currently sexually active, the same techniques will give you stronger orgasms than you’ve ever had before.

The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

This article is for anyone who was never taught the best way to masturbate. So funnily enough it’s for 99.99% of all guys…
You’ll discover ways to give yourself more intense orgasms than you ever thought possible. And importantly you’ll also find out how masturbation can make you better, or worse, at the real thing.
This is important because many guys end up having problems because of the way they masturbate. But with the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual stamina that will leave women lying exhausted on the bed next to you.
And even if you’re not currently sexually active, the same techniques will give you stronger orgasms than you’ve ever had before.

Contents:

Part A: The self-pleasure survey.
Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure.
Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience.
Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity.

Part A: The self-pleasure survey

These polls are 100% anonymous. Please take a moment to help out by giving your answers. Thanks!

Poll 1

What is your preferred way to masturbate?

• Just my hand(s)
• My hand with porn
• My hand with lubricant
• My hand, lubricant and porn
• With a fake vagina
• With other sex toys or objects
• Practicing techniques to last longer
• Other

 

 Poll 2

Which kind of porn do you use?

• Online / videos
• Magazines / other printed source

 

Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure

1) The basics – Madam Palm and her five lovely daughters

Most people learn pretty early on that their hand is a capable friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and whole lot of fun.
Yet many guys still get stuck thinking that the best way to masturbate is simply as follows:

• Switch on a movie.
• Grip penis gently but firmly in your strong hand.
• Move up and down repeatedly at lightning speed.
• Ejaculate into a tissue.
• Return to the paused video game.

This is of course one of the most satisfying masturbation techniques known to mankind.
The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. But you can add much more variety as you’ll see in the next few tips.

2) Don’t forget Madam Palm’s twin sister: 4 ways to masturbate using your other hand

Even at this basic level, you can still spice things up by using your other hand. Here are some ideas:

• Try only using your other hand.

• Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. But if not, you can try placing the penis in between both palms pressed together.

• You can use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.

• Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!

3) Don’t leave your balls hanging

Your balls are more than just an odd shaped storage facility. They are an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.
It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:

• Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
• Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
• Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.

There is another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.

4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones

If you think the best way to masturbate is all about your penis, and maybe your balls, then think again.
It’s a popular belief that only women are blessed with multiple erogenous zones. But the truth is that men are more sensitive than you might think.
For example try touching your nipples in the way that you would a woman’s. Experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.
Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you are sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.
Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.

5) Moving south: the perineum

The Perineum is the area in-between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand.

6) The holy grail of the male G-spot

Some cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place.
But there’s no doubt that there are parts inside the anus which respond well to self-stimulation.
For more open-minded and less squeamish guys, one of the best ways to masturbate is to include the anus. For others it’s strictly a one-way street.
If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-increasing treat. Here are some ideas for you:

• Don’t forget to wash before you start.
• Check that your chosen nail (yes – one finger will do) is short and not sharp. File it down if necessary.
• Add plenty of lubricant on your finger (proper lubricant is better so you don’t accidentally stick something in there which can burn)
• Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
• Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
• You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
• The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter. This is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.

Stimulating the G-Spot is known in the tantric sex world as a prostate massage, and is an effective way of enhancing orgasm. The key though with all these ideas is to be gentle and soft.

7) Experiment with different positions

If you just sit in your favorite chair or lie on your bed, you’re not going to get anywhere near simulating sex.
And as you’ll find out in part 3, simulating sex is one of the most important masturbation techniques for men. Here are 3 ways you can use your body more effectively:

• Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.

• Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand. The idea is to keep your hand still and use your body to move.

• Change positions from time to time: kneeling, standing, sitting, swopping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.

• And in case you’re wondering, unless you’re a yoga master, have a missing rib or could enter the Guinness book of records for your length, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll be able to do the necessary gymnastics to use your own mouth.

Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience

8) The best way to masturbate without doubt is with a realistic vagina

I shouldn’t need to point out the obvious difference between your hand and a real vagina.
As I said earlier, masturbation isn’t just about personal pleasure. It’s also an investment in your ability to maximize both you and your partner’s pleasure during sex.
That’s why simulating sex as closely as possible is an excellent way to prepare yourself for the real deal.
It’s also way more fun and intense than just using your hand. Anyway, we all know that many women use sex toys, so why can’t guys too?

Find out more about the Fleshlight realistic vagina >>

9) The slippery joys of lubricant

For the same reasons that you would use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.
Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.
A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience.
Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.

10) The double-edged sword of online movies

Movies can be great if used the right way; they can also be damaging if used without any thought.
As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation can be a killer of your future sexual performance. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.
If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you’re unfortunately training yourself to be a future ‘one minute man’.
But if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, then it’s a great way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.

11) Sex toys Santa won’t deliver

There are loads of great sex toys you can use in combination with the masturbation techniques in this article, for example:

• Cock rings, and vibrating cock rings, add extra pleasure and also test your control.
• You can try out a realistic anus or mouth sleeve.
• Blow-up dolls still exist, believe it or not. So do sheep if you’re that way inclined.
• There are toys designed to stimulate your G-spot. I’m sure you can imagine what they might look like.
• If you’re into any clothing fetish, then don’t be afraid to have fun with it. It’s your life!

Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity

Between 20 and 30% of men will suffer from premature ejaculation at some point in their lives.
One of the main reasons guys end up having this problem is because of accidentally training themselves to climax very quickly when masturbating.
But to give most woman an orgasm, on average you need to last for between 10 and 20 minutes during sex.
So you also need to be able to last that long, and preferably longer, when masturbating. These next few sections will explain how you can achieve that.
Please note though that if you already last for ages during sex, or when masturbating, there’s no need to practice these.
But even though there is no need, some of these techniques can result in you having much more intense and powerful orgasms.
This is for the simple reason that by forcing yourself to delay orgasm, it’s usually more powerful when you do get there.

12) The human traffic light: the start and stop method

In terms of techniques, the start and stop method is a really good way to masturbate. The simple version is that you set yourself a time, for example 30 minutes, and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.
Sound painful?
Well it can be, but not as much as the pain of the embarrassment of coming within 2 minutes every time you have sex.

13) Kegels – relaxation and the last line of defense

Kegels are a secret weapon you can develop in the safety of your bedroom. They can be used as a last line of defense to stop yourself ejaculating.
But as well as strengthening the muscles for holding back ejaculation, they also teach you which body parts to keep relaxed during sex.
In addition they’re often used to get bigger and harder erections. And give you better bladder control when you’ve had too many beers. What’s not to love about that?

14) Breathe and relax

This is more of a side dish to the main course of masturbation techniques. And again it’s on the theme of learning self-control.
Breathing slowly and deeply and keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating.
The reason being that tension and over-excitement will extinguish your sexual performance faster than a fireman’s hose on a wooden match.

Final thoughts

By now you’ve probably realized that finding the best way to masturbate will depend on how much you’re willing to experiment. The key is to be open-minded and have some fun along the way!
There are two ideas in this article that I would recommend above all others. And they both stem from my belief that masturbation should be used to train yourself to become a master in the bedroom.
The first is to get yourself a sex toy as mentioned in part C. A realistic vagina will make a huge difference to both your pleasure and ability to last longer.
The second is to learn the techniques discussed in part D. There are some great books written about this with detailed instructions teaching you how to understand your body and develop self-control.
I highly recommend taking a look at the one which I personally used and which gave me the ability to fully satisfy my partner in bed:

Check out the Ejaculation Trainer review for more techniques >>

http://www.risingmaster.com/the-best-way-to-masturbate/